Complex problems have simple, easy-to-understand wrong answers.
Having found my previously workable falsehoods to be unworkable in my current circumstances, I am finding it difficult to discover a new workable falsehood.
It took me a long time to put together the first system of workable falsehoods. It worked very well and I was sure it would be adequate. It was troubling to have it fail. The framework was flexible and had withstood many shocks. It was able to spring back into place or to bend permanently into a slightly modified shape that was usually an improvement.
Circumstances occurred that stressed the framework in such a way that some pieces snapped and the framework collapsed.
I fear that I am too old to adequately rebuild a new framework system. I also fear that any new system of workable falsehoods that I develop will fail as miserably and completely as my previous one did. These failures tend to happen when one is under the greatest stress and a useful heuristic is most needed.
The best we can ever do is muddle through. A good system helps you to muddle through with confidence and peace. I will continue to muddle through the best that I can but it is extremely unpleasant to muddle through without peace.